This is definitely not what I expected to be reading on a Saturday night. This is so very upsetting!
I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I realize words on a computer screen may seem useless to the reality, but maybe they can help. I never knew her so I can't really say much, but I know she was a person, and people matter. She sounds really great by your description and a terrible loss to the world.
I'm sorry for everything, I hope the best for you and your family.