I like you; I read your stuff (usually when I'm not logged in sadly), and I agree, that was pretty harsh.
Except you should have actually brought it up with that person personally, it would have saved you a lot of time and pain; like you said that person was your friend.
Yeah guys, it can get out of hand, but your just better off saying "screw it" and either not reviewing, or show a bit more respect; like Ryan even said, she could get suicidal and kill herself. Then how bad would you all feel?